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Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. - Yoda Last week I did something that scared the hell out of me. I stood in front of nearly 200 financial planners and I talked to them about why financial blogs are a good thing.jordans 6 cheap jeans cheap t shirts nike air force one air force ones I'm a confident writer. I've been doing this long enough that I know my strengths and my limitations. I've had enough feedback to understand that I'm an effective communicator - when I use the written word. I'm less confident as a speaker. I don't have time to pause to formulate my thoughts. I'm not able to edit. I'm afraid of being trapped in a corner without being able to talk my way out. Basically, I'm scared to speak.
It would be easy to simply refuse the opportunities that come my way. When somebody asks me to speak in front of a group, I could say "no". When radio and television stations call for an interview, I could say "no". But for the past retro Jordan jordans on sale prada jordan 12 air jordan 6two years, I've been following my own policy to say "yes" to new opportunities （so long as they don't violate my personal code of conduct）.
To say "no" is to live in fear. My goal is to continually improve myself, to become better than I am today. One way to do that is to do the things that scare me, to take them on as challenges, and to learn from them - even if I fail.cheap ugg boots prada handbag prada bags prada bag air jordan 13 In mid-November, a local station asked me to appear on live television. "I realize it's short notice," the producer wrote, "but we'd love to have you on the show if you're available tonight."
It's one thing to say that you want to overcome your fears, but it's another thing to actually do it. Fear is real. When I was asked to appear on live television, I was frightened. I remembered my disastrous interview with a air jordan 1 air jordan 11 air jordan 4 jordan 23 air jordan 5Seattle radio station in early 2007. I thought about recent taped television interviews that I had hated. I was afraid of what might happen.
But I also thought about the things that had gone right. I thought of how my speaking skills had improved over the past year. I thought about my enthusiasm for frugality and personal finance. And then I thought of the book I was a reading,jordan 4 air jordan 7 air jordan 8 air jordan 12 air jordan 9 a book that I had bought for $1.29 at the local thrift store.
The Magic of Thinking Big was a huge bestseller during the 1960s. Written by Dr. David Schwartz, a professor at Georgia State University, the book contains dozens of practical hints and tips （and many anecdotes）air jordan 2 jordan 13 jordan 11 creative recreation air jordan 3 to illustrate the power of taking risks to achieve big goals. Schwartz argues that nobody will believe in you until you believe in yourself.
So when the television producer asked if I wanted to appear on his show, I thought big. "Sure," I said. "I'll do it." I acted confident, but on the inside I was frightened. What I needed were techniques to boost my confidence and to overcome my fear. Remember that those times when you feel that your ideas aren't good enough, or people are putting down on your ideas, or you're getting fired - that these are the same ideas that you're going to be celebrated for 30 years later.replica chanel watches Replica handbags Wholesale handbags Louis Vuitton handbags replica Louis Vuitton handbags You almost have to have courage. - Francis Ford Coppola, The Godfather DVD commentary track
Without self-confidence, we have a tendency to make poor decisions. We make choices based on fear instead of what is best for us. If you lack confidence, you might fill your life with self-destructive behavior. You might work at a job you hate. Louis Vuitton replica Louis Vuitton Replica handbags supra shoes Solar water heater suppliersYou may allow yourself to get deep in debt. You may find yourself moving from one bad relationship to another. Without confidence, you don't allow yourself to pursue your dreams.
In The Magic of Thinking Big, David Schwartz argues that all confidence isdeveloped. discount ed hardy Wedding dresses d&g shoes prada shoes women boots"No one is born with confidence," he writes. "Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it."
Confidence is built slowly, one success at a time. I've learned that in order to overcome fear, I need to employ a variety of techniques. Here are a few that I've picked over the years, and which I've used to help myself get out of debt, leather shoes mens boots men's boots timberland boots ugg boots saleand to develop the courage to speak before groups or to appear on live television: Get off your "but". In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, David D. Burns offers a variety of suggestions for building confidence and destroying fear. One of these is to learn to defeat a case of the "buts". Schwartz calls this excusitis, the "disease of failures". Burns says that the best way to deal with excuses is to argue with yourself. Every time you say, "I'd like to save money, but…", come up with a rebuttal to counter the argument. Keep going, fighting every excuse you make.